We made it to Friday and my two year anniversary of blogging! Two years ago today, I started this journey as Stay Golden; but then realized that it just wasn't right. So within a few months I rebranded and became The Golden Girl behind The Golden Girl Diary. Which is super fitting since I love all of the gold things! When I first started blogging, I was finishing up college and began working full-time in an office setting. The work I was doing left me feeling like I had just wasted all of my time, money and knowledge on a job that just wasn't making me happy. Looking back to when I first began, my life was so drastically different. And I too, was so different.
I barely ever traveled and was afraid of leaving home; meaning Pennsylvania. It wasn't until I realized just how unhappy I was with my job that my then boyfriend now husband and I decided it'd be best for us to live together full-time. Through college and the beginning of my husbands professional baseball career, we spent a majority of our time a part. We were so ready to live each day together. So I packed up our belongings from our Pennsylvania apartment and started living what we call the baseball gypsy life. Thinking back to it; it was pretty risky in terms of relying on one income to support us and it still is. And quite honestly, nothing has ever gone according to plan. With baseball, you can't really rely on certainty because there is none. I learned that real quick! But with the uncertainty comes lots of lessons; lessons that I was so upset by but now grateful for because they taught me so much along the way.
So technically speaking, today marks the one year anniversary of blogging full-time. Even still I don't feel like I'm a full-time blogger though. Now that we have our house, there are so many other tasks that have to be done that take so much of my time. So while I don't technically work full-time hours every single week towards my blog, I work overtime to keep all of the many others tasks/responsibilities of my life in order.
As I was brainstorming ideas for this post I was left feeling a little uninspired. I didn't want to just talk about the cliche moments like "What I've learned while blogging this year," because I'm guessing that's not very relatable to you. Meaning, a majority of my readers are not bloggers. So me venting and explaining what I've learned is almost pointless. Instead, I want to share a few things I've learned personally about life that I think will help you too.
You're in charge of your own happiness.
This too sounds cliche, but it's something that I believe in. It might be scary changing your life and not knowing what is next, but if you're honestly not happy with where you are (and what you're doing) then YOU have got to be the one to change it. Complaining or making others feel guilty about the cards that you've been dealt is not going to change anything. Anything that you want you can get; it just requires you to take charge and go for it.
Kill 'em with kindness.
This is a no brainer, but sometimes I feel like we forget how to be kind. We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget about other peoples feelings. Any time I encounter someone who is just not pleasant, I always take a moment to step back and remind myself that I have no idea what this person has been through. My kindness may just brighten their day and if it does that is enough for me. Because you just never know; that act of kindness could mean the world to them.
You can't please everyone.
And that's okay; some people are impossible to please. I have this tendency to literally over-dwell over things, especially if it's regarding a friend or loved one. I brush things off really quick but the moment that I'm not doing something those thoughts fill my mind again. I'm always thinking about if there was something I could've said or done differently. I think about what they might be thinking or how they are feeling. Typically my husband catches these "vent sessions," where he reminds me (because even I need reminding too) that it's okay to have these feelings. Just having him to vent to makes the world of a difference! Whether it's your significant other, parent, or friend; just make sure you have someone that you trust wholly with your feelings.
the only people you need in your life are the ones that need you in theirs.
So there have been a few instances that this has made so much sense to me lately. And this quote is the the most relatable way to say it without coming off harsh. If a person is only contacting you when they need something or is convenient for them; chances are that you don't need them in your life. You need someone that is there no matter what the circumstances are. Focus on those people; they are the best ones out there.
It's normal; we all get into funks and just feel unhappy. I like to keep a journal to document my thoughts but also to note the things that I've achieved or that I am proud of. It could be something so small, but to you means so much. I like to treat myself with cupcakes, just sayin'. Prime example: I made it through two years of blogging so a cupcake is totally necessary. You better believe I finished that bad boy off!
be willing to help others; but also know when to say no.
This has been huge for me. I have this tendency to always say "yes" and I rarely ever say "no" to people. It wasn't until recently that I just felt so taken advantage of that I just couldn't take it anymore. Like myself and my feelings were not important; just my knowledge that I have gained from my college education, work experience, and blogging experience. It wasn't until I completely vented to my awesome photographer (who has quickly turned into a trusted friend) that I realized that it's okay to say no and do what's best for myself.
At times, it'll feel like the rest of the world is just leaps and bounds ahead of you. But just trust in His plan; it'll all work out just how it's supposed to. And if it feels like life is going so wrong, just keep going. As I always say; it's got to get worse before it gets better.
I know I sound like a broken record, but if you made it all the way through this post please let me know what you think. As a blogger, I get tons of e-mails/comments/messages and they honestly make my entire day. They make me feel like what I'm doing is good. So I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Hope you have a great weekend!